Limiting Beliefs: Creativity

Why is it so difficult to spend time on creativity? Lately, I have been thinking a lot about why it is has been so hard to write and create. I have so many thoughts bubbling around in my head. I have these really big story ideas and I probably have the rough skeleton outline for

What Makes a Male Character Attractive

I’ve been thinking a lot about what makes a male character attractive to male-attracted readers. As a romance reader and writer, there are so many things that can attract me to a male character. Bad boy biker with a heart of gold? A golden retriever gamer boy who has an oral fixation? Alien barbarian looking

Beginning Again: When Life Puts You Back at the Starting Line

I don’t know about you, dear reader, but this has been one hell of a year. It feels like life keeps pushing me back to the starting line of life. I started my running habit up again in October, but a family emergency left my running shoes dusty for most of December. I tried to

Becoming the Main Character of Your Life

How does someone become the main character of their own life? I know that this probably seems like a crazy question to someone with a strong sense of self, someone who feels sure of themselves and the things that they want out of their life. If you already are living your best Main Character life,

On Avoiding Therapy Homework

I am writing this blog post because I am actively avoiding doing my therapy homework. This homework is to write an aspirational obituary. What would I like my life to look like when I and my loved ones have the opportunity to look back on it? What kind of woman do I want to be?

How to Change Your Life With Words: Why Affirmations and Self-Talk is Important

If you are reading this blog, you probably already know the power of words in our daily lives. You are a reader. You are a writer or a creative. Words can change the way music sounds in our ears. They can invoke memories or visceral feelings. Affirmations, also known as mantras, can help change the

Get some therapy. Your characters and readers will thank you.

If you are one to immediately bristle at the idea of going to therapy, hang with me for just a little bit longer. Despite the rising popularity of talk therapy and the destigmatization of getting assistance with mental health, some people are still uncomfortable with the idea of sharing their most intimate secrets with a

Getting my Sh*t Together

I was scrolling through TikTok, as a one does while procrastinating, when I came across a video that said that planners and organizers don’t really work for neurodiverse folks because when the planner is closed, we promptly forget about it. As someone with OCD, I know that I tend to get lost in the spiral

Asking for Help

I know that people are entirely sick of hearing about the pandemic and all the suffering that people have endured over the last year of this crisis. (Also, I can’t believe that it’s already been a year!) My little family was working so hard to be safe. My husband was working as a first responder,

Bad Brain Days

Everyone has Bad Brain Days, but maybe you haven’t been able to label them yet. They sneak up on you, shimmering in the corners of your vision. They are when everything feels miscalibrated, off-center by a half inch. Bad Brain Days are when your skin might feel a little tight on your bones, you are